About The Book
WORDS OF SUPPORT
"What a wise and beautiful book! With honesty, courage, and humor, Brett Ray shares his life as a transgender man. By intimately voicing the fears and struggles and joys of his particular story, Brett invites us all to listen to persons, rather than to pontificate on "issues." And he specifically challenges the church to move beyond destructive labels in order to welcome the gifts and ministries of everyone created in the image of God. "My Name is Brett" is an important and timely memoir that will open hearts and change perceptions."
--Charles L. Campbell, Duke Divinity School
"Reading Brett's story is like having a long conversation with a good friend. You learn something new about them and about yourself, and are changed because of it. His story is an important one for us to read today, one that is not easy to share, yet, one that we have been entrusted with. Read it!"
--Xochitl Alvizo, Assistant Professor of Religions Studies, California State University, Northridge
"Brett Ray’s memoir is a pathway to understanding the various struggles trans youth face today. The book is an honest, reflective portrayal of a trans man’s journey with going to college, dealing with depression, alcoholism, and his relationship with religion - all major struggles of the LGBTQ community, and especially trans youth. I wholeheartedly support Ray’s work in “My Name is Brett: Truths From a Trans Christian.” Campus Pride is committed to young people like Brett -- and addressing the complicated relationships faced by many with religion in our #LGBTQNotSin campaign. I encourage those struggling with similar issues to use this novel as a conversation starter."
--Shane Windmeyer, Founder/Executive Director, Campus Pride
"Brett tackles the conversation between religion and family, purpose and belonging, gender expression and identity, and love and fear with a maturity that exceeds his years. What does it mean to be faithful? How are we loyal? While Brett discovers his transgender identity, he has to question his faith--the difficult decisions he faces shed light on some of these questions as he continues to grow and explore his true self and where he may belong in his church."
--Skylar Kergil, transgender youth activist, recipient of the Trevor Project's Youth Innovator award
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